The Dude abides. And you. Original image by alexisnyal. After you have spent some time noticing your thoughts and labeling them, take note of how you feel in your body while you are thinking these thoughts.
When you notice your thoughts going down a negative path, challenge how realistic they are. This step is merely for exploration purposes.
Notice that negative thoughts generally result in a negative mood state and positive thoughts lead to a more positive mood. Recognize that you don't always have to be accepted, but don't do things that stick out just for the sake of causing a stir. Give yourself permission to live on your own terms.
As Brad Blanton writes in Radical Honesty, We believe our interpretations of reality intensely, and we want other people to join us in our interpretations to make us feel secure. And do it first.
Don't wait for anyone else to do it. Always trying to please others is an unbearable task in which you are designed to fail. Principles are the wardens of the mind.
It's all about you becoming your best self, not becoming better than someone else. This time of second-guessing will feel awkward, but you will become increasingly familiar with what is yours, and what is not yours, and that will be powerful. I often look at someone else with a great personality and want to be like him; I spend a lot of time thinking about this and I don't know what to do. Comparing yourself to someone else put your focus on the other person instead of on yourself, where it should be.
Any evidence that contradicts their Story will get ignored.
Understand the power of your thoughts. In this Article: When you are steadily requiring guidance from those around you, you give up control of how your life plays out.
But remember that no one has a perfect life, and the people you think have a perfect life are struggling, too. Do only what you belief in. Don't compare yourself to others or elevate others above you.
Your email address will not be published. This manipulation actually has nothing to do with you. The people who are invested in keeping their Stories are going to continue to run those Stories even when presented with evidence to the contrary, to use them against you, and they will not ask questions to clear up their own misunderstandings.